Saturday, October 29, 2011

No one is missing

This is for the linkup at Kelly's Korner.
I have a private family blog and rarely use this one but please comment/message me if you would like because I would LOVE to meet more one child moms - it feels so right for us but also unusual:)

We tried to get pregnant for two years before we finally did.
We always thought we would have three kids close together and still thought that even after our daughter was born. Then there was a shift sometime before she turned one - thankfully, my husband and I had that shift at the same time!:)

We started to talk about it and say "You know what? This is pretty great!"

The best way to describe it is that I don't feel like anyone is missing.
But I do wonder sometimes if we are robbing our daughter of something. I have a brother and always loved being a big sister from day one (we are 2.5 years apart).
My husband is an only child and loved that, but he also wants to make the right choice for all of us.
My mom reminds me that not all siblings get along - in fact it can be the worst relationship of your life. So we don't want to make a choice simply based on "Siblings are great!"

We are young. I'm only 28, and my husband is 27. So we have time to change our minds but really don't think we will:)

I love spending my days with my daughter and watch other moms get frazzled and have to split their time and I just don't know if I would be good at that. I get frazzled enough at times as it is!:)

Anyway I would love to meet some of you!!!

5 comments:

GreenGirl said...

Hello!
Never feel like you are robbing your daughter...
See my post about being an only child...
It's not so bad!
I feel very blessed...

The Taylor's said...

Thank you so much for your post. Many I have read have been about families who have one baby and just haven't had more yet. Your post shared exactly how my husband and I feel. I would love to chat more.

Becky said...

Hi! I found your blog from Kelly's Korner. I have an only child and hope to find more blogs of those who do as well. My Jackson is not an only out of choice but out of circumstance (LOTS of IVF!). He's our pride and joy, but I worry sometimes about raising an only child, and want to make sure I give him everything he needs. Sorry this is rambly---I tend to do that sometimes! Thanks!

Autumn said...

Hi! I am a mom of an only... he's 12. So we are pretty certain we're done!
I also know the feeling that you describe... our family is complete!
Great to meet you!

Vanessa said...

I'm the "One and Done" post from Kelly's Korner...thanks for visiting my blog - we are pretty positive we're done and from our family - we feel complete...You're not alone in your thinking. I was also raised an only child and it was wonderful!